Chapter 5: Lesson 5.2 Making Sense of Your Emotions pg. 139

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Chapter 5: Lesson 5.2 Making Sense of Your Emotions pg. 139

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Draggable item		Corresponding Item
optimism		moods or feelings you experience
self-compassion		skill of knowing which emotions you feel and why
gratitude		treating oneself with kindness and understanding, even when experiencing setbacks and disappointments
resilience		skill of understanding, controlling, and expressing your emotions and sensing the emotions of others
emotional awareness		ability to keep a positive outlook and focus on the good aspects of stressful situations
emotions		ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, and to understand someone else’s wants, needs, and perspectives
empathy		emotion that means being thankful or grateful
emotional intelligence (EI)		ability to bounce back from traumatic or stressful events

Understanding Your Emotions
People experience many different _______  and emotions. Your emotions are the moods or feelings you experience. They reveal to you how you feel about certain events and situations. They can also help you understand yourself and make _______  that relate to your values and beliefs. _______ , which are a normal part of life, can be pleasant or unpleasant (Figure 5.7). Pleasant emotions represent _______  that make you feel good. Unpleasant emotions represent negative feelings that often make you feel bad. Your thoughts and feelings often influence your behaviors.

As you experience life, you may feel pleasant and _______  emotions at the same time. For example, when the school year ends, you may feel happy thinking about not having to do homework. You might also _______  thinking about not seeing some of your friends every day. Sometimes, understanding your emotions can be challenging because one emotion masks or hides another emotion. If you try out for and do not make the _______ , you might feel angry with the coach for not selecting you. This feeling of _______  may only be a result of sadness, however, because you really wanted to be part of the team.

Understanding your emotions involves knowing which emotions you feel and why. When you are aware of your emotions, you have _______ . You are not just reacting to your emotions. Instead, you use emotional awareness to control them.

Controlling Your Emotions
Changes in the brain can make it hard to _______  during adolescence. As a young child, you probably reacted to what you felt without thinking. As you grow up, however, you can learn to control your emotions by following the steps in Figure 5.8.

In the following sections, you will learn about the process for _______  your emotions. You will read about the feelings Jennifer is experiencing and how she responds to the situation. As you are reading, think about how you would react if you were in Jennifer’s shoes. What would you do? Reflect on how identifying, _______ , and _______  your feelings in healthy, positive ways can help you control your emotions.

Identifying What You Are Feeling
The first step in controlling your emotions is to identify what _______  you are feeling. This is not always an easy task. Sometimes, identifying feelings of _______  or other emotions can be confusing. To help you determine the actual emotion you are experiencing, and why, think about events or factors that might have _______  the emotion (Figure 5.9).

Consider Jennifer’s situation. Jennifer started the day in a _______ . She argued with her sister when her sister said it was Jennifer’s turn to take the dog for a walk. On the way to school, she yelled at her brother for not keeping up with her. At lunch, Jennifer snapped at her best friend, Alia, for no reason. Alia asked Jennifer why she was in such a bad mood.

As it turns out, Jennifer was _______  to a conversation she had with her mother the night before. Jennifer’s mother had mentioned that she was applying for a new job in another city. If her mother gets the job, Jennifer will probably have to move, which she does not want to do. Rather than telling her mother that she did not want to move, Jennifer took out her _______  on those around her, which is _______ .

Jennifer _______  to Alia for snapping at her and then they talked about Jennifer’s situation. Jennifer identified that she was angry, but as they talked about it, Jennifer also identified that she was _______ . She was anxious about the thought of leaving her friends. She was afraid that others would not accept her at a new school. By identifying and sorting out her feelings, Jennifer took the _______  toward accepting her feelings.

Accepting Your Feelings
Now that Jennifer knows her anger is a result of being _______ , she must learn to accept her feelings. Accepting your feelings does not mean that those feelings will just go away. It simply means that you allow yourself to _______  your emotions. When you experience your emotions, you can work through what you are feeling so you can let it go.

Sometimes you may want to _______  your emotions and hope they just simply go away. Try to avoid judging or changing your emotions. Instead, accept your emotions as they are by showing self-compassion.

_______  means treating yourself with kindness and understanding, even when you experience setbacks and disappointments. Your emotions belong to you, and you are not wrong for feeling them. Denying or burying your emotions deep inside can have a _______  on you both physically and mentally. Realize that your emotions cannot hurt you as long as you _______  them and _______  them in healthy ways.

Healthy, positive ways to accept and express your emotions may include _______  your feelings with friends, family members, or a trusted adult. _______  about what you are feeling in a _______  is another positive way to work through your feelings. You can also work through your emotions by crying if you feel sad or running if you feel angry. Figure 5.10 shows other healthy ways to accept and express your feelings.

Jennifer began to accept her emotions when she admitted that her anger was a result of _______  and afraid about moving. Talking with Alia was a healthy, positive way for Jennifer to begin to work through her emotions. Once Jennifer _______  her feelings and calmed down, she felt  that she was ready to express her feelings to her mother.

Expressing Your Feelings to Others
Controlling your emotions involves expressing your feelings clearly to others. When you are telling others how you feel, it is important to stay calm and keep your emotions under control. If you are _______  out or try to hurt someone, then you are expressing your emotions in an unhealthy way. You may cause _______  to the relationship. Instead, be positive and think about the effect your words may have on the other person. Explain how you feel without being _______  (Figure 5.11). In _______ , people are not afraid to express their emotions. Your _______  members will want to hear about how you feel and may be able to help by offering support.

Sometimes, you can make a _______  worse if you try to confront the person who caused you to feel a certain way while you are still angry. Instead, wait until you cool off before talking about your feelings. By waiting, you can control your emotions and express them in a more positive, healthy way. You are allowing yourself time to work through and get relief from your _______ . This will help you keep your emotions under control.

When Jennifer talked with her mother, she had already worked through her anger and was able to remain calm and explain her feelings about the potential move. By talking with her mom, Jennifer began to have a more _______  about the situation.

Developing Emotional Intelligence
Do you know people who always seem to remain positive, calm, and in control of their _______  situations? Do you know people who sense that you are feeling down, even before you say anything to them?

People who are skilled at understanding, controlling, and expressing their emotions and sensing the emotions of others have high _______ . Having EI is necessary to develop close personal relationships with others.

People with high EI share similar abilities and _______  (Figure 5.12). In the following sections, you will learn more about these abilities and characteristics. In the process, you will discover ways to develop your _______  and enhance personal relationships.

Control Negative Emotions
People with high EI are able to control or reduce their negative emotions. The _______  you experience, such as anger, jealousy, or fear, can easily become overwhelming and cloud your judgment. _______  or reducing these emotions can help you live a happier, more fulfilling life.

One way to control your _______  is to change the way you think about a situation. Instead of thinking negatively about the issue, try to view it in different, more _______  ways. For example, if your friend does not respond to your messages, try not to think that your friend is ignoring or rejecting you. Look at other possible explanations. Perhaps your friend is very busy. Maybe your friend’s cell phone is off or has a low battery.

Your friend’s actions are probably more a result of your friend than a result of you. Try not to take your friend’s lack of response personally and avoid jumping to conclusions. Instead, have optimism. _______  is the ability to keep a positive outlook and focus on the good aspects of situations (Figure 5.13). People who have optimism are better able to cope with _______  because they realize situations are temporary. They know that circumstances will eventually improve. If you respond with optimism, you understand that your friend will eventually message you back.

Have Empathy
Having high _______  involves having empathy. People who have empathy are able to put themselves in someone else’s shoes. They understand and respect other people’s wants, needs, and _______ . They seek out evidence that justifies their theories about others' feelings and perspectives. This helps identify misunderstandings or _______ . They treat others as they would expect to be treated. As a result, people who have empathy are better able to support their friends and family members who are in need.

Can you remember a time when someone showed you _______ ? How did this make you feel? Perhaps you felt valued and respected, which means you are more likely to feel good about yourself. In turn, when you show _______  to others, you are more likely to make them feel good about themselves. Having empathy helps you sense the emotions of others and respond in open, _______ .
Developing empathy involves keeping an open mind and listening carefully to what others have to say (Figure 5.14). 

People have _______ , and you must be able to listen to understand what people are feeling and what they need. You do not necessarily have to _______  someone else’s opinion, but you can see why they feel the way they do.

Show Gratitude

The ability to have _______  has many benefits on your personal health and wellness. Gratitude is an emotion that means being thankful or grateful. People with high _______  have the ability to appreciate what is good and meaningful in their lives. This _______  to be happier, which, in turn, often results in the ability to be nicer to others and show them gratitude.

People who can openly _______  to others, including friends, family members, and even strangers, demonstrate that they appreciate others and recognize what these people have done for them. As a result, their _______  with others improve and grow stronger.

Show Resilience
People respond to _______ , and many demonstrate resilience. People who show resilience are able to bounce back from _______  and _______  events, such as an act of violence, a serious health condition, or a family crisis. They are flexible and adapt, change, and grow as they encounter difficult experiences. When facing a _______  situation, they think about the best way to respond to the situation and figure out what they can learn from the experience.

Having resilience requires _______ , which means you need to engage in a healthy lifestyle. When you take care of yourself, you have more energy to handle _______  and respond to issues.

The care and support of others often helps people show _______ . Relationships that are positive, loving, and trusting help build a person’s resilience. When experiencing _______  and sadness, it helps to have a strong support system of people who can offer encouragement.

Because people react to traumatic and _______  differently, they tend to use various strategies for building resilience. The strategies that work for one person may not work for another. Figure 5.15 _______  strategies a person could use to help build resilience.