Point 4: offer them choices (when appropriate)
Point 5: Showing confidence in the child's ability to make decisions
Point 6: explain the reasons behind house rules / adult decisions
Point 7: avoid talking about children in from of them
Point 8: help them achieve competence
Point 9: encouraging them to make their own choices
Point 10: be as independent as possible
Point 11: providing many different experiences for children to experience success
Point 12: must be careful not to create challenges that are too difficult or frustrating